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Possibilities are as Real as Setbacks


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“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics:  It is addictive, gives momentary pleasure, and separates the victim from reality.”, stated John Gardner, an American novelist and university professor.

The time commitments run rampant.  Organizations announce layoffs and businesses state closings or selling off their business.  We become overwhelmed with work.  Lofty goals, high expectations, and increased demands take their toll.

It is these challenging times that often lead to questioning our worth and if our contributions to the organization are valued.  Self-esteem takes a blow.  Maintaining a healthy self-esteem means we take care of ourselves.  Take time to reflect back, look at how far you have come and not only how far you need to go.   Rejoice in that!

It is realistic to assess and sympathize with current struggles.  It becomes a concern when being aware of life’s scuffles becomes one of indulging in self-pity.  Self-pity is sinister.  Like a horse with blinders or one with a lasting downcast head, you lack complete vision.  You can only see a part of the whole issue; one loses touch with reality.

It is in the here and now that the wood craftsman at his workbench can create an artisan masterpiece.  An artist blazons a new painting, a businessman develops a new and innovative marketing plan, and a scientist ponders a new experiment.

So let the wood chips fly, the paint dry, the ink flow, and the test tubes grow.  The choosing action allows us to do something about our bad luck or misfortunes.  We can see possibilities for change if we choose to do so.  We are doing something positive and thus able to see what is tragic and make a life for the better.  Engulfed in self-pity, causes blindness, and thus sees no way out.